Signs that you might be ready to divorce
When you sense something is wrong between you and your spouse, the thought of leaving may start to come up more and more frequently. But how do you know you are prepared to end your marriage? Because each person is unique, there is not a single answer which will address every situation. However, there are some signs that you might be ready to divorce.
You Have Tried “Everything”
One indication that you may be ready to move on is when you have tried everything you can think of to make the marriage work and nothing has helped. You may have been to a therapist on your own or seen one together or have attended workshops and groups. It could be that you have had countless heart-to-heart talks with one another about improving the relationship but never made any real progress. Everyone has a different idea of when they have exhausted their efforts, but this is generally when you reach a place where you feel there is nothing left to do but walk away.
You Have Forgiven Them One Too Many Times
You may have certain events in mind that if they were to happen, you could never remain married to your husband or wife. When a partner cheats or is violent for instance, this may be an absolute end to the marriage. However, sometimes even after a marriage-ending event happens, a couple may try to repair the damage only for the injured spouse to realize he or she cannot remain in the relationship. If you have been through a traumatic event with your partner that you cannot get past, it may be time to move on.
Your Partner has Uncontrolled Rage
Depending on the severity of the circumstances, a partner having anger and rage issues may not be a basis to end the relationship when he or she acknowledges them and is willing to get help. However, if your husband or wife can’t or won’t control their behavior, takes it out on you or other members of the household, and refuses to address the problem, you may have to get out of the situation.
You Love them, but are No Longer in Love
It can be hard to recognize when you have fallen out of love with your spouse. While you may care for them as a friend or parent to your children, you know it's not the same as being in love. You may find yourself drawn or attracted to other people or distancing yourself emotionally from your partner. Whether you have reached a point where you are ready to make a change depends on you, but if you no longer have a connection with your spouse, it may be time to let them go.
While no one can tell you if it’s right to end your marriage, sometimes taking the time to consider your feelings and situation can provide the clarity you need.
At First Look Family Law, attorney and mediator Karyn Youso has extensive experience helping clients consider the different aspects of divorce and can help you understand your options and connect with the right resources. Contact us today to take a “first look” and discuss your next steps.