5 Gifts Your Divorce Can Give You
When you think about divorce, it's easy to consider all the losses that come with it. While it's true that several things in your life will change after your marriage ends, not all of them have to be negative. Depending on your perspective, divorce can be a new beginning. Here are 5 gifts your divorce can give you:
The Gift of a Conflict-Free Home
Living in a home where you and your spouse can't get along can leave you emotionally drained. Whether it’s overt hostility or tense silence, this level of conflict can make a home into a prison. Once your divorce is over, you can retreat at the end of the day to a place that is yours without the oppression of an unhappy relationship. You can reclaim your living space as a place to recharge and rest and turn it into an environment you enjoy, and that is one-hundred percent yours.
The Gift of a Being Able to Grow
Some divorces happen because two people are in seemingly constant conflict, while others may happen because they have grown apart. Whatever the case may be, when a marriage ends, each person is free from each other and the burden of a failing marriage and can move on. If the relationship wasn't working, it may have been time for it to end. Each person has the choice to grow from the experience. You can take this time to consider what you have learned about yourself and from the divorce. This may lead you to a therapist or another resource that will help you clarify the things in your life and help you grow and be ready for the right relationship.
The Gift of Happier Children
Parents often struggle with deciding if they should stay together in an unhappy marriage for their kids. It's understandable why parents would want to shield their kids from the pain of divorce. The problem is that the children can also be harmed when living in a home with unhappily married parents. Further, they are looking at their parents as examples of what a healthy marriage should be. The older they get, the more they will pick up on the tension between you and be impacted by it. The divorce may hurt your children, but they can get through it with your support. They will also do better living with and spending time with happier parents.
The Gift of Getting to Focus on You
When you put all of your energy into a failing marriage, there isn’t much left to devote to your own needs. Then, when you realize you can't make things work, all your time and attention goes to your divorce. After the divorce is over, you can finally stop pouring everything into a relationship that no longer serves you and focus on finding out what makes you happy. You can finally focus on you.
The Gift of Clarity
After a divorce, it can take time to understand why everything happened, especially if you didn't see it coming. Your ex may have left you unfairly and without warning, but in retrospect, you may recognize that there were other inequities in your relationship. You could also come to realize that you were in an unhappy marriage and your ex leaving was the only way for it to end. Now that it's over, you can work on healing and being open to finding a partner who is right for you.
Attorney and Mediator Karyn Youso of First Look Family Law has extensive experience helping clients understand their options and connect with resources during and after their Wisconsin divorce cases and can help. Contact us today to take a “first look” at your situation.